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Michelle Obama responded to my letter

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I sent my book to  President Obama, Michelle Obama, Jill Biden, and the joints Chiefs of Staff of all Military Branches. I wrote to them to bring awareness of  families supporting their family members serving deployments. I understand Michelle Obama and Jill Biden have become more involved with trying to understand what is needed to support our military and their families. There are so many issues to address. I felt privileged they answered my letter.

In my letter I  offered to help educate, share, coach those military families that face the challenges I faced, when we were guardians of our grandchildren. Deployment effects the entire family. A civilian like myself, living not near a military base. You are isolated and  are in your own war zone. Trying to adjust to the new responsibilities, trying to hide your fear, and having a smiling face to the outside world is a tremendous part you have to play.

I hope someday I can key note speak. Share I learned  dealing with deployment and making that time with my granddaughters a special time.

How to support your child being a military parent

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Fifteen years ago, our daughter was in her second year of college when she came home one day and said “ I am burned out of school. I don’t want to be a burden to you and Pop(our kids called my husband) so I have decided to join the Air Force.” We were stunned. I was thinking to myself “ARE YOU CRAZY?”We thought she was stressed out and confused. She reassured us that she had thought about this for many years and had not mentioned it to us, and she felt this was the time to do it.

As a parent what do you say? I could accept that my son would join the military, but my daughter? It was so hard for me to picture her in the military. As a child she had a hard time with anyone raising their voice to her! I asked myself, how would she get through basic training with all the yelling they do? funny thing, she did overcame this in basic training and grew into being a very strong person. Today she has five years away from putting in her 20 years in the Air Force, and will be promoted to Master Sergeant next year.

I would have never thought our daughter’s career would change my life. And  the pride I have for her for serving our  country.

Alan and I learned so much while she has been in the Air Force. When she was deployed to Afghanistan, we gave her our  complete  support. No one wants to be in a war, even those in the military. The military just want to protect us. I learned how our military and their families are willing to sacrifice their well being.

While she was deployed our entire family faced many challenges. When she needed us to become the guardians to her children, and  when she deployed,  we learned how to become parents, again.

We had no clue that those days raising our grandchildren would build an incredible bond with our daughter and granddaughters.

I learned how to support my daughters efforts by being there for her, and her children when they needed us most. I Learned how to understand how the military worked. How deployment effected our daughter, our granddaughters and ourselves. What I have learned, is that you can not stop learning, you face the challenges now matter what your age is.  And it is very rewarding.

God Bless those that want to protect our freedom and our Country, and their families supporting them.

First Steps of Deployment

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The Department of Defense has announced that many of our Military Branches will be deploying starting next month. I remember when we found out that our daughter was to deploy, we had less than 30 days to prepare for our granddaughters to come live with us.

Our daughter was briefed on her deployment and as guardians to our granddaughters I searched for information, but did not find  information helpful to our specific family issues. Here are a few tips that helped me-

  1. The first step is to select a room and make it comfortable. Kids need to have pictures of their parents and family in their room.
  2. Be sure you have all the legal and medical  documents and any recent health issues.
  3. Prior to enrolling, contact the school and find out if they have uniforms or special dress codes. This will help minimize your stress level and become more prepared.
  4. Allow the child to bring their favorite toys and books with them
  5. Be aware of all medications and any health information, along with immunization records
  6. Calendar can be placed in the kitchen or bedroom  to note homework project due dates and letting the child cross of each day, minimizing their anxiety

The USMC family website www.marineparents.com has a large amount of category topics to help support the family. I am searching for Navy, National Guard and Air Force family supporting website. If you know of any please let me know.