Author Archives: Debbie Nichols

How to help your solider reintergrate

This weekend I will be speaking Army Reserves families who’s loved one will be returning from their deployment in 30 days. This is a very exciting time for the solider returning and their families. I remember when my daughter returned from her deployment. Thinking about us all being together again seemed like a dream. But it was real.

I am excited for those families, but I know they will have a job ahead of them. They will have to adjust to their loved being a changed person, and realize they have changed also. They will have to be patient and allow their loved one time time to adjust to living state side. They will have to flexible at including their loved back into their daily routine.

Deployment not only changes the solider, it changes everyone -Spouses Grandparents, Aunts, Uncles, cousins and family friends. It takes time adjusting back, but it does feel good be together again.

Our family gained a better understanding of our daughter’s deployment and the steps you have to take, when she had to re-intergrate.

In my speech I plan to share tips with the families in hopes of making their integration a smooth one.

How Military Children’s Charity (MCC) organization is supporting deployed children

This nonprofit organization www.militraychildrenscharity.org is founded by a young teenager, Isaiah  Navarro seeing the need to help deployed military children. He felt  deployed children have special needs when a parents is deployed. Being a military child himself, he said he know the challenges and feelings of isolation,abandoned  and having a parent  absent of all your school activates when his father deploys. Concentrating in school is difficult for deployed children because they are concerned of their parent’s safety.

Isaiah began by collecting funds to purchase gifts for the deployed children. MCC first started by distributing Christmas gifts in Southern California with assistance by the Family Readiness Officers of the Marines.  MCC is planning on expanding into a  National presence with all military branches providing gifts all year round for deployed children.

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My granddaughters were visiting during Spring break a few weeks ago and had an opportunity to meet Isaiah and his mother Cherie. Isaiah and his mother presented my granddaughters  gifts and thanked them for all so serving our Country, knowing what they sacrificed during their mother’s deployment. My granddaughters were so excited to accept their gifts. They were giggling and laughing. What a wonderful experience for military children.

Isaiah’s mother Cherie ,has provided Isaiah great support and have helped build Isaiah a strong self esteem.   I am proud to know such a fine young man and a wonderful organization. I look forward  in the future to helping him support his dream. You can too at: www.militarychildrenscharity.org

Jewelry is not always a girl’s best friend!

Just before my daughter deployed she gave my granddaughters necklaces with her picture inside the heart locket. She told her daughters that they could look at her everyday when she was away by opening up the locket.They cherished the necklaces and wore the necklaces everyday. They were so careful removing the necklace before getting into their bath water. But children are children and things happen.

The first incident occurred a few weeks staying with us. My youngest granddaughter Bailey, was upstairs playing  in her room after school.  I heard her give out a blood curdling scream and began crying. I ran upstairs to see what had happened and she was hysterically crying while burying her face into her hands. I asked her what happened and she looked up at me with tears running down her face she said “ I have killed mommy!”

She then showed me that her necklace with the locket, when she opened the picture of her mother’s  face was rubbed off. She continued to cry. I told her not to worry, that we could find another picture and  replace the picture she had. She slowly stopped crying.  I reassured her that what happened to the picture had nothing to do with her mother. That she had not kill her mother. I told her we had lots of pictures in our computer and grandpa would  make a new picture for her locket.  Bailey stood right next to my husband. He was seated in front of his computer and she watched his every move.  He  then  printed the picture, and begun  cutting it out to fit inside the locket. He placed the new picture into the locket and Bailey smiled and said thank you.

The second incident happened about a month later ,when Ivie the eldest granddaughter was at school. Somehow she did not clasp the necklace correctly when she up it on in the morning. While playing on the basket ball court at recess she suddenly realized the necklace was  tucked inside of her shirt but the locket was missing. She began to cry. Ivie’s teacher realized how upset Ivie was. Recess was over, but she allowed Ivie and her friends retrace Ivie’s steps. Ivies’ teacher Miss Neff knew that this necklace was more that an ordinary necklace, that her mother gave it prior to deployment, and it was  symbol of their love and connection. After carefully retracing Ivie’s steps it was a miracle but  they found the locket. When I went to walk the Ivie and Bailey home from school that day, Ivies’ teacher shared with me what happened with the necklace. I thanked Miss Neff for helping Ivie and for being so understanding.

And that night Ivie and Bailey informed me that they decided to leave the necklaces at home. They were afraid something would happen to and  I agreed. They laid the necklaces on their dresser. They would look at  their necklaces every morning and night before bed.

So when picking out an item of remembrance, sometimes jewelry is not a girls best friend.