Category Archives: Keep the communication going

Becoming a parent to my granddaughters, again!

Our daughter will be taking a new assignment and that means I am back being a parent to my granddaughters. Its been 5 years since our daughter deployed when her children came to live with us. At that time, my husband and I were totally unprepared for becoming our granddaughter’s guardians. But we love our granddaughters and  wanted to be there for them. It’s the same today.

But this time I will be a mobile grandma.Traveling out of state. The kids will be  staying with their stepfather and in their home. My son in law is a wonderful person. He was my daughter’s boyfriend when our she deployed, 5 years ago. He stepped in and supported my granddaughters and built a solid relationship. Over the years he has built a good relationship between my granddaughters. But becoming a single parent is challenging for anyone, especially a step dad.

This time I plan on going and staying for extended time very month. I have given a lot of thought about how we need to establish a system, so my granddaughters feel connected to my husband and I again. Along with allowing my son in law time for himself, to rest and know we are here to support him.

How we are going to do this I am unsure, just like 5 years ago. All I know is we love our daughter,granddaughters, and our son in law And we all want our daughter not to worry and her to do a great job.

Our love and faith in God will get us through this.

 

 

 

How I stay connected with my granddaughters

I have always enjoyed playing with dolls and as a child the only thing I wanted was a doll for Christmas. My grandmother would make my doll clothes for my new doll  and matching pajamas.

I had a business trip in the late 1990’s and while I was on the plane a  woman sat next to me, she told me about this incredible new store in Chicago called American Girl Store. I could hardly wait to go see this store. So I had 2 hours to spare between meetings and I went to the American Girl store. When I entered the store  I felt like a child myself. When I saw all the dolls to choose from, the clothes and accessories I was hooked. I bought a doll for my granddaughter and a doll for myself. Then a new American Girl store opened Los Angeles. This was a a few years ago. When  my granddaughters came to visit me we made a trip to the American Girls store. I had my mom and my great aunt join us. My great aunt now owns her own American Girl doll! She is 89 years old.

American Girl store

Over the years I have bought American Girl dolls for my granddaughters. When visiting my granddaughters I would bring my doll, Molly. My granddaughters and I would play with our dolls together. We would act out with our dolls, be at fashion models, gymnastic Olympic competitions, having friends sleep over, etc.

before arriving at my  granddaughters, my youngest granddaughter Bailey, would  remind me to bring my doll Molly with me. I never really thought about how we were connected by playing with our dolls, until yesterday. I  dress my doll for seasonal changes ,and my doll has a  Halloween  Cat costume. Bailey emailed me the other day  asking me what I was planning on doing this weekend. I told her I was going to get out my Halloween decorations and I was going to dress Molly in her Halloween costume. Later that day my granddaughter replied to my email, informing me that she had picked out her dolls Halloween costumes explaining in detail what she was going to dress her three dolls in for Halloween, including on her older sister’s American Girl doll.

I thought how fun we have  sharing a common interest. This is how you build a strong communication with children by sharing a common interest. It can be any thing, but try and find something you both will enjoy.

christmas 2010 007This is a picture of last Christmas opening up their American Girl from my husband and I.

I spent my Memorial Day as a guest on the Patt Morrison’s Memorial Day radio talk show on KPCC-FM

Last Thursday I got a phone call from my friend Pat Alivso from  Military Families Speak Out. She informed me that she had forwarded my name and information to staff member of the  Patt Morrison radio program. Patt Morrison’s Memorial day program was addressing challenges military families face, and my friend Pat knew we had a story to tell. The only problem was, I would be traveling home from Lake Havasu on Monday and crossing the desert, and cell phone service is  limited. I was concerned  of the  broadcast time and the phone reception  would not be clear enough for radio broadcasting. I told Pat thank you, but I just couldn’t see how I could be able to call in.

On Saturday I got a call from the Patt Morrison’s program Producer. She shared with me the other guests on the show and the time 1:20 pm for me to call in. She understood that  I would be  traveling and they really wanted to share our story with Patt’s listeners. The time was later than than when my friend told me. At 1:20pm we would be in Indio where the reception would be good. The Producer asked many many questions about our experiences. She then shared with me her vision of a future  forum with a live audience where the audience could ask questions, more interactive and was wondering if I would be interested on being on the forum. Would I, you bet. I love helping those that are now facing what I faced.

On Memorial Day as we were driving home I thought about what questions Patt would ask me and I began to think back about that time of deployment. We arrived in Indio at 1:00 pm. We pulled off the highway and went to a shopping center. I told my husband to park our truck away from any other cars. I was concerned that when I would be speaking the audience would hear additional noise and possible feedback. The weather was mild mid 80”s unusual for this time of the year, but perfect for stopping and stretching our legs. At 1:10 my cellphone rings, it the Patt’s Morrison staff, asking me if I would like to be on hold and hear the conversation Patt was interviewing Tim Kahlor’s father was discussing with Patt his son’s injuries. This father has made our government aware of  his son’ injures during the war,  improper body protect guard and the challenges of medical assistance. It was very interesting. And I realized how fortunate our family is.

Then at little past 1:20 Patt introduces me, sharing the challenges we faced being a grandparent raising our grandchildren, trying to keep the children connected to their mother and the difficulties I faced when the children returned back to their home. Patt’s experience as a reporter for LA Times, Winner of 6 Emmy’s, Golden Mick and received a Pulitzer, she made me feel welcomed and as if I was speaking to a friend. It was a wonderful experience. Before I knew my time was up. It was such a pleasure being on her show. I am really looking forward to the future forum.

How did you spend your Memorial Day?

“Interview with Patt Morrison, 89.3 KPCC-FM | 89.1 KUOR-FM | 90.3 KPCV-FM, Southern California Public Radio”

http://www.scpr.org/programs/patt-morrison/2011/05/30/military-families-and-their-private-front-lines